Okay, Stay with me on this one! This could be a bit exposing for me!
I'm away on holiday at the moment, but before I left I went to the hairdresser, just to make sure all my grey bits vanished..know what I mean?
The hairdresser, who I've known for 10 years or so asked me " Do you think you're a warm person Allison ? "
Ohhh now there's a loaded question if ever I heard one, and do you know what? It's stuck in my mind ever since.
Now, yes, I think I am a warm person, especially to my closest friends and family and I hope that my clients think so too, but he had a point to make.
"I think people perceive you as a bit "untouchable", like, you have this health and fitness stuff all sorted and you don't struggle with it. You know, It's easy..and I don't think many women relate to that"...
I totally get what he was trying to say. And it bothers me. It's actually something I've been working on myself for a few years.
You see up until 3 years ago I ALWAYS felt like I had to be perceived as the expert in terms of anything women's health fitness and nutrition. I felt like I needed to be PERFECT to be taken seriously. That's why I gave up after 20 years of coaching women, I just stopped. It was exhausting!
I use to be worried about others seeing my vulnerabilities. That fact that, yep I was struggling too, to be consistent with my perfect exercise and nutrition plan. I thought that I'd be found out and people would see that I was insecure to. I felt like I just wasn't enough. Lean enough, fit enough, pretty enough, smart enough, successful enough, worthy enough...
Once I stepped away from the crazy health and fitness world (as it can be) I realised the importance of my struggles and insecurities. I had only wanted to show my good side. I had preferred to stay "distant" rather than own up and admit that, I also didn't have all my stuff together all the time....and yep my bra and pants rarely matched!!!
Have I suddenly transformed into a super open and vulnerable person? What do you think? No it's a work in progress, and I think this is what the hairdresser picked up on. It was a reminder to me that I need to keep working at exposing myself!
When I see someone really mastering something I desperately want, I watch how they do it...Know what I mean? And Michelle Obama did this brilliantly this week.
Yes, I know the White House PR team were all over this, trying to focus on the fun side of their time in office. But Boy, they nailed it!
Did you see it ? She was a guest on James Cordon's Carpool Karaoke and she was brilliant! Rocked out to Stevie Wonder & Beyonce ...you know, like you do when no one's looking! Put her out there as totally real, exposed and approachable.
Here's the link if you didn't see it...enjoy..it's so worth 15 minutes of your time.
Ofcourse, I don't have to change, but my passion is in helping women to realise that they are indeed "enough" and really don't have to take on some insane diet or exercise regime to start feeling their best. It's all about establishing impactful doable habits..things that they know they CAN do consistently!.
To do this my clients need to feel more included, accepted, heard and quite frankly just supported by me...and that's what I'm working on...
Like how I brought all that together??
Until next week
Allison (No matching bra and pants today) Harding
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